Criticism is unavoidable in modern life, whether at work, online, or in relationships. Our instinct might be to react with frustration, defensiveness, or even avoidance. Yet, Stoicism offers a different approach—one that invites us to meet criticism with thoughtful reflection and purposeful response.
Epictetus reminds us, “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” The opinions and words of others lie beyond our control. What we truly own is how we interpret, judge, and respond to them. This distinction is key to transforming criticism from a source of upset into an opportunity for growth.
When faced with criticism, begin by asking yourself: Is this feedback about something within my power to change? If it is, then accept it thoughtfully, consider how it might guide you toward improvement, and take deliberate steps to grow. If it is not within your control—if it stems from others’ misunderstandings, biases, or preferences—then release it without allowing it to disturb your inner peace.
This practice requires patience and self-awareness. It may feel easier said than done, but with steady effort, it trains the mind to stay focused on what truly matters: your own judgments and actions. By doing so, you cultivate resilience and freedom from emotional disturbance caused by external opinions.
Criticism can then become a teacher rather than a threat. Each piece of feedback, even if initially unwelcome, offers insight—if we choose to look for it. In this way, Stoicism empowers us to turn inevitable challenges into moments of personal development and clarity.
“Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.” — Epictetus
Want to Go Deeper?
If this reflection resonated with you, consider exploring these Stoic works that offer further insight on managing judgment, control, and growth:
The Enchiridion by Epictetus – A concise guide to Stoic principles on control and response
Letters from a Stoic by Seneca – Timeless letters on practical wisdom and handling adversity
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius – Personal reflections on resilience and virtue in daily life
Reflection Prompt
Next time you receive criticism, how can you remind yourself to separate what is within your control from what is not? How might this shift change your response and open the door to growth?
